I wanted to answer your question about being pregnant and adopting but I couldn't locate your blog or email address so I'll just put it here and delete it later.
I have to say our agency never said a word about me being pregnant during the process but I never posed the question. I did ask our international agency HIH. I said "I am expecting now, is that going to be a problem?" Her response was "only for you". Awesome. I loved that. To me it said so much. It said she didn't care, the government in Eastern Europe wouldn't care, and the child I was adopting wouldn't care either. I feel like because the child we're adopting is five she won't see the new baby as competition. It will be such a period of adjustment for all of us. Also I spend so much time sitting and nursing my babies in that first year that it makes me more available to my kiddos. Rather than hustling around the house trying to get everything done I'm forced to be still and read books or play puzzles while nursing the little one or whatever it is the little guys want.
It is a huge adjustment anytime you add a child. I do feel like it would be harder on a one year old to suddenly have a brand new higher need sibling than it would on a infant.
Beyond all these reasons my heart feels as though the Lord has brought us here and he will see us through. We're following his guidance in regard to all of our children. It will be tricky when it comes to traveling and the close proximity to my due date. Again, I'll leave that in His hands. I've never had a daughter or felt like I was missing out having just my boys but I know He has a plan for each of us and suppose my ladies just needed a sister from the jump off. I hope that answers your question.